• When we lost our house in Napa in the 2017 Nun’s Fire, my immediate instinct was to get them out of the area, away from the smoke, somewhere comfortable and familiar. Fortunately, my sister lives in Santa Barbara and was able to take us in for a couple of weeks. It was a wonderful soft-landing…

  • The purity of having nothing at all

    “They lost everything.” You’ve probably heard this a few times by now, uttered in hushed voices and with deep sympathy for this seemingly unimaginable loss. But they’re wrong. The burden of what you now face is profound, it is true. I’d venture to guess that earning a Master’s degree in navigating the catastrophic loss insurance process…

  • United Policyholders This is a non-profit resource for objective information about working with your insurance company. It is hugely valuable. DisasterAssistance.gov This is where you’ll find information about registering with FEMA and applying for disaster assistance from the government. Elected Officials Follow your local elected officials on Facebook, sign up for their newsletters and reach…

  • Reach out and let them know you’re thinking of them. This alone can really buoy someone’s spirits. Don’t put pressure on them to get back to you. Offer a specific way to help that you feel you can uniquely contribute — they may be too overwhelmed to have an answer to the question “how can…

  • If you’ve ever had to file an expense report at work, then you are familiar with this most tedious and time consuming exercise. Doing so after a natural disaster is going to be this exercise times a thousand and will definitely feel like salt in the wound. Why the f**k did this happen to you…

  • Welcome

    Hi, I’m Emma. Along with thousands of others in Napa and Sonoma, I lost my home in a wildfire in 2017. My children were 1 and 3 at the time. It sucked. But it didn’t destroy my life — nowhere close. I created this blog to be a resource I would have wanted but struggled…